Over the many, albeit short, years of my life, I have heard over and over again, "Having kids changes your life." What they don't tell you is that change really starts while you are pregnant.
In the past nine months I have made some minor tweaks and changes to my life and surroundings. Not enough to cause me to consciously have to work on these changes, but enough to create a positive surrounding for my upcoming arrival, as well as myself. These changes may be small, but they will have great impact on my family later in life.
One change I made is with friends. I learned really quickly how great true friends can be. On the flip side, I learned how your oldest friends can prove to be the biggest disappointments. No need to fret though! I just gracefully walked away without saying a word. If someone is not willing to be there for me when I need them, I do not need them. I found I have many, many others, both new and old, who will be there, and very happy to do so.
I also realized why so many moms, and mom-to-be, tend to gravitate towards each other. It is definitely a means of sharing experiences with someone who knows and understands. There is also the added benefit of kids having friends and playmates.
I learned rather quickly that I no longer have the patience for the daily/weekly gossip I once looked forward to hearing from some people. Do not get me wrong, it is always nice to hear, but just not on a regular basis, as I once did. Gossip just has this way of making me feel more normal. I would just rather talk about what is going on with me. Not in the "IT'S ALL ABOUT ME" sense, but more in the "I CAN RELATE," or "HAS THIS EVER HAPPENED TO YOU," or even "LOOK WHAT YOU HAVE TO LOOK FORWARD TO" aspect. MOMMY TALK!
A wise friend once told me that once you have kids, you will notice that the people you surround yourself with are people that your children enjoy as much as you. You will have people around you that make you feel safe, more than fun. Life does change when you put children in the picture.
I think most amazing change I have been able to observe is Carl's. He is definitely extraordinary. He has taught me so much, and I have also learned so much from him, and about him. I look forward to seeing him with Olivia and watching them grow.
In the past nine months I have made some minor tweaks and changes to my life and surroundings. Not enough to cause me to consciously have to work on these changes, but enough to create a positive surrounding for my upcoming arrival, as well as myself. These changes may be small, but they will have great impact on my family later in life.
One change I made is with friends. I learned really quickly how great true friends can be. On the flip side, I learned how your oldest friends can prove to be the biggest disappointments. No need to fret though! I just gracefully walked away without saying a word. If someone is not willing to be there for me when I need them, I do not need them. I found I have many, many others, both new and old, who will be there, and very happy to do so.
I also realized why so many moms, and mom-to-be, tend to gravitate towards each other. It is definitely a means of sharing experiences with someone who knows and understands. There is also the added benefit of kids having friends and playmates.
I learned rather quickly that I no longer have the patience for the daily/weekly gossip I once looked forward to hearing from some people. Do not get me wrong, it is always nice to hear, but just not on a regular basis, as I once did. Gossip just has this way of making me feel more normal. I would just rather talk about what is going on with me. Not in the "IT'S ALL ABOUT ME" sense, but more in the "I CAN RELATE," or "HAS THIS EVER HAPPENED TO YOU," or even "LOOK WHAT YOU HAVE TO LOOK FORWARD TO" aspect. MOMMY TALK!
A wise friend once told me that once you have kids, you will notice that the people you surround yourself with are people that your children enjoy as much as you. You will have people around you that make you feel safe, more than fun. Life does change when you put children in the picture.
I think most amazing change I have been able to observe is Carl's. He is definitely extraordinary. He has taught me so much, and I have also learned so much from him, and about him. I look forward to seeing him with Olivia and watching them grow.
In preparing for a baby, we learn so much and this is just the beginning!
I went through the same thing you did when I was prego with Jake and even a little after I had Matthew.
I am here for you whatever you need!